“Iwillbegirl” was the IRC nickname of a guy compelled to turn himself into a girl through medical procedures for getting accepted in the society as a normal couple. Why would he want to do so? The answer is, he is gay and according to him it’s easier to change his gender than to alter his feelings towards men. A 30 year old man with whom I started chatting accidentally turned out to be listening to a person who wants acceptance in the society and is willing to go to lengths. According to him gender transformation doesn’t hurt physically but it does put a lot of mental pressure. He wants to find a gay or straight man who can accept him as a girl and can have a straight relationship afterwards. I was surprised to know that with all of these pride parades and legalizing of gay marriages there are still few gay people who want to change themselves in some fashion to be accepted as normal. I am not going to talk about for or against gay relationships and I am putting my words from purely non religious point of view. In my opinion definition of normality is indeed something that exists in majority and probably that doesn’t impair you from carrying out your life. We call ADHD a disorder because it impairs a person to concentrate effectively and is also not found among the majority of population. But we do not consider homosexuality as a disorder rather an orientation though homosexual population is a minuscule as compared to the total number of human population and it does impair you from a very fundamental role of living beings is to reproduce. People can argue that a gay female can have sex with a guy or can do IVF just to get a baby or gay men can adopt children to start a family, but these methods are purely in vitro and it can only give a synthetically constructed family structure. Chatting with this gay man I got this impression that even they are proud of who they are, there is still a sense of normality that they are worried about. Right now its purely on the basis of society structure but in future it might come up naturally.
I enjoy chatting on IRC more than, for example chatting in one of the Yahoo chat rooms, it has many more channels for various interests and I personally find fewer fake or bot accounts. In those plethora of chat channels there are many dedicated to sex chats and to my surprise there are quite a few channels for chats related to Incest behavior.
So I decided to do an experiment and chat with people in those channels for a few weeks. So I joined channels like #incest #familysex #dadanddaughtersex in DalNet and UnderNet networks. I personally believe in straight post marital sex, but I was really surprised to talk to people who are not only into promiscuous behavior outside but also within their families. And to add to my surprise most of the people in the #incest channel were from Pakistan. A country so conservative, with a religion so strict, has such a culture going on. Although thinking about it from another angle Islam does allow marriages between cousins, so they are into incest of some definition, but sex between father and daughter or between immediate siblings is just too much for me. If you do not trust my words then connect to DalNet and join #incest channel and you will find 90% of the people are from Pakistan.
I also talked to a young married woman, according to her she had slept with her dad, granddad, two of her nephews apart from her husband. There were many people in those channels who were just there for role playing and that they are not incest in real life. But to me even thinking about having sex with one of my family members is so awkward and sinful.
I asked one of the girls I was chatting to, is that allowed in a country like Pakistan and the answer was yes, probably not openly, but people are involved in such things. Again to me its a double standard of the Muslim community, at one side, they project themselves to be so holy and God fearing and on the other hand they are also involved in such things. I understand that we all are humans and are equally likely to fall into temptations and sins, but it’s also important for us to accept it and repent from it. Or atleast don’t point the fingers on others when there is so much shit going on in ourselves.